Monthly Archives: January 2011

The Option is Yours…


LIFE, by and large, is inscrutable. But one of its aspects is very clear – it does not indulge in favouritism.

It presents a medley of opportunities and challenges alike to one and all, with no discriminations whatsoever. Then why is it that some of us tend to lead peaceful, fulfilling lives while an abject, strife-torn existence is the fate of others? The logic is clear – each individual opts for his own options and traverses life accordingly.

The choice is ours – either we choose to suffer with a delusional lifestyle or adhere to one that is genuine; that we are comfortable with. Be true to yourself.

Money, to an extent, is essential for happiness and comfort. However, an evolved perspective enables harmonious integration of material prosperity and spiritual progress. After achieving a comfortable level of financial security, choosing the right direction is vital. Pause and think. A wise person would overcome greed and look towards following a finer, humane and creative path.

We can maximise our happiness by minimising two habits – expectations and comparisons. When we have high expectations of others, especially our near and dear ones, we invariably end up getting hurt. Similarly, making comparisons can cause negative emotions like discontentment, jealousy and an unhealthy competitive spirit. So the ball is in our court, so to speak, as we need to make the right choice.

Often, we make our life onerous by nursing secret grudges and resentments against others who may be totally oblivious of our acrimonious feelings. This self-created baggage will only perpetuate the uncalled-for miseries and intricacies of our life. Cultivate a generous disposition – forgive, forget and move on in life. Life will never stagnate. Such a decision can only bring peace and joy.

We are gregarious beings, living in society. Relationships are an inevitable component of our existence. We can nurture robust, loving and transparent relationships or choose to tarnish them with selfishness, malevolence and deceit. The former will promote equanimity and smoothness in life while the latter will cause rancour and perpetual turmoil.

Life, however, may not always be rewarding.  A trusting, non-resistant attitude will help us embrace reality gracefully. Accept the world the way it is rather than brood over its imperfections. A negative attitude will certainly not alter reality – the option is in our own hands!

For true, undiluted happiness, it is imperative to live in the present. Past is a grave and the future is unknown. Living in the present moment is what can yield positive results. Again, the choice is ours. Simply pondering over past miseries and not learning lessons will make us cling to the past in sadness. It is only when we wisely embrace the lessons that we let go of the past and move on in life to brighten our present.

PostAWeek2011:Why is it so hard ?


The sound of Laugh can lighten up a dark room. Just imagine yourself sitting in a dark room and when someone just laughs… Am sure you might just not want a ray of light to understand the feeling of a laugh.. You might just laugh back too.

I think both- Smiling and Laughing are contagious.

For me even if a Baby smiles at me.. I feel really good about myself. I feel like, hello.. I made someone happy for a while atleast. It feels good while smiling and greeting everyone at work. Its a small thing, which we tend to not notice much. But the impact is great.

I like it when people Smile and greet me. Its a really great start for my day. Keeps my energy levels on for long.

When I was in the 12th std, my brother once called me, and told me,”Whenever you brush your teeth in the morning, after gargling, just smile into the mirror for 15secs.” I laughed at what he told me. But after I hung up. I gave it a thought for 5mins. Tried it the next morning, I laughed at myself again. But trust me, after a few days I almost got used to it. And I started to like myself.

A true saying- .. “You need to love yourself first, to start loving others.”  So now think of it, cant a smile do wonders and make your day??

And when others laugh because of me, thats the most loveliest feeling I ever get, because thats when I realize, I could tickle someone’s funny nerve…. Like when someones laughs at your personalized jokes.

Lastly, Smile at others, coz it not only makes their day, but yours too. 😀

PostAWeek2011:How Being Imperfect is Perfect…


We usually wonder, how Imperfect our life has turned. We keep cribbing about not having a good job, a good pay, a well settled life, proper finances, a good relationship, a good house… etc.

But have you ever wondered …. how BORING could be a perfect life?? Well, if you had the perfect job.. but not a perfect life partner… how often do you talk about your perfect job? Very rarely (if am not wrong….) How often do you even think of making your perfect job..much better? Less.. Though you’re working towards the goals of your company (which you have to for not being fired 😛 )…

If things were perfect you’d never think about it much..or on how improving it … If you scored the 1st position in your class, you wouldn’t be struggling much for being first unless its your first time… You’d rather be worrying about how less true friends you have from your classmates..or how strict your parents are on regular studying and not allowing you to enjoy out sometimes on weekdays.

If people were perfect just as you want… wouldnt you take them for granted and not respect them much OR just vice versa. Think about it..

Think about how sometimes you tend to take your parents for granted.. because you know they’ll not leave you… they’re there with you always ..no matter how rude you tend to be or how least importance you give them??!!

Just because your friends are with you all the time whenever you needed them, you remember them only when you need them?! OR even vice versa…

In case of relationships..usually there is an imbalance.. one always loves the other more than the other. And sometimes even in this case, either of them, take each other for granted.

In the case of career.. you’re doing exactly what you want, but you don’t have the right kind of job which you have been wanting to do…

All these are very natural instances. And nothing at all bad… because they are in human nature. But how we deal with it matters a lot… There is nothing such as a Perfect Life, nothing such as a perfect relationship or even a perfect job. Everything and every individual has their own flaws and qualities. Our job is not to notice the flaws and talk and think about them all the time. Our work is to embrace them beautifully and to lessen the expectations. Like how do you feel when you are given a surprise, when you hadn’t expected something like that to happen (in a complete positive way) …HAPPY !!

The more we embrace situations and people… the more we are near towards contentment…. 😀